LOCAL SUPPORT FOR GRIEF
Many are not aware that our local Hospice organization is a wonderful resource for those dealing with the loss of a loved one. Grief Support Groups are held on a regualr basis for many types of losses. These support groups are specifially designed to support children, teens and their families. The services are free of charge and offered in both English and Spanish.
For more information you can contact any one of their three locations:
Hospice of Petaluma
416 Payran Street, Petaluma
439 College Ave., Santa Rosa
North County Hospice
205 East Street, Healdsburg
*Know that whatever you are feeling is normal. And it is ok to feel happy when grieving as well. Grief is a rollercoaster of emotions and often may manifest itself as feeling upset about something else. Be gentle with yourself .
A Word on MINDFULNESS and Grief:
"What does this mean for grief?
There are two common ways many of us cope with grief – we become completely consumed and feel trapped by our grief. Or, from fear of that, we try our best to avoid the pain and emotions so we can “move on”. Mindfulness reminds us that pain and sorrow, like all else, are impermanent. Does this mean grief goes away completely? Of course not. But it does mean that it will change shape and form, it will ebb and flow, some days it will hurt terribly; and some days you will start to smile. It means that our grief, like everything else, is impermanent and ever-changing. Once we accept this, even if only on a rational level, some of the need to avoid our grief starts to diminish. We can stop believing it is permanent and will never change, even when we feel it will last forever. We can start noticing and accepting our grief for what it really is and the small changes every day in our experiences." - whatsyourgrief.com
The mindfulness activities that can most help you during are:
1. Name your feelings (Im so angry!.....I feel so sad......I am NOT sad today; I feel guilty..etc).
2. Do NOT judge yourself for any feeling you are having-the practice of simply being aware is enough. And it is in this awareness, the healing begins to slowly take hold.